22 | I’m Pregnant!
Baby #4 Q&A
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Hey friend! I’m so excited to finally share the news—I'm pregnant again!
I’m well into my second trimester, feeling great, and already forgetting I’m pregnant most of the time… until I bump into something with my growing belly.
I honestly never thought I’d be do this four times in four years, but I’m incredibly thankful for the chance to grow and meet another little person soon.
In this post, I’m answering some of the questions I’ve been getting about this pregnancy so let’s get into it! If you have any questions I left out, feel free to leave them in the comments or email me at hello@micaela.ca
Was This Baby Planned?
Yes! We knew we wanted more people in our family and we were pretty open to it happening anytime.
Calling it planned almost feels a bit too formal at this point. It wasn’t like we sat down and mapped out a timeline. It was more of a “Hey, I think I’m ready again.” “Yeah, me too.” “Cool. Let’s go.”
Do You Use Birth Control? Are You Mormon or Catholic?
Nope, I’m a Bible-believing Christian. But do you ever think the Mormons and Catholics are onto something?
I think its weird how acceptable it is in Christian circles to prevent babies.
I’m not saying I have a perfectly formed opinion, but I do feel convicted that we need to stop trying to take God out of this equation. Maybe I’ll feel differently someday, but I don’t want to close that door just because our family “feels done” or we think we’re at capacity. We always want to stay open to God’s leading to have more kids.
Are You Finding Out the Gender?
Nope! We’ve kept it a surprise with all our kids, and I still love that moment of discovery.
This time, we were more tempted than ever. Our daughter keeps insisting it’s a baby sister, so we thought about finding out just to ease any disappointment, but ultimately decided to keep it a surprise. She’ll love this baby no matter what, and I think it’ll be easier for her to accept the reality once the baby is actually here.
(Also… we’ve guessed correctly every time so far, so fingers crossed for four out of four!)
Did You Always Want Kids Close Together?
Not at all. I grew up with one sibling two years older than me and always thought that was the perfect spacing. Anything closer seemed crazy.
But after our first was born, I surprised myself by wanting another baby almost immediately. Around the six-month postpartum mark, I usually start feeling great again, the baby gets more independent, and we’re sleeping better—it just feels right to grow our family again.
What Kind of Car Do You Drive?
We have a Dodge Grand Caravan. Honestly, I wouldn’t recommend it if you have a bunch of little kids in car seats. There is only one top latch for a forward-facing seat in the back row, and its awkwardly positioned between two seats. Ideally, I would want to put at least two forward facers back there (since all four will be in a five-point harness of some kind).
I’m determined to make it work for now, but it will be inconvenient. Someone, please tell me—are all vans like this?
What is your birth plan?
All our babies have been born at home, and Lord willing, this one will be too!
If “home birth” sounds wild to you, don’t worry—I'm not doing it alone. Home birth is different from freebirth. I’m planning a regular old homebirth with a highly trained midwife! I feel safer and so much more at peace delivering at home!
How Do You Afford So Many Kids?
For context, I live in Canada, where birth is covered by our taxes—whether we’re at home, a hospital, or a birth center. That definately helps!
Otherwise, I find babies and toddlers aren’t that expensive. We have clothes and gear already, and I just don’t buy much extra. Fewer toys, fewer clothes—it makes life simpler and more peaceful. The only added expense for each child is diapers and food once they start solids. It truly doesn’t add up to much.
My husband has a great job, and we really don’t spend that much money. We’ve both always been very frugal. We budget and save as much as we can, and since I’m home with the kids, we’re not paying childcare or paying for conveniences like takeout very often.
Any Tips for Handling Pregnancy with Toddlers?
Of course, it changes in every season depending on the ages of your kids. I actually found pregnancy with one baby harder than this pregnancy.
My older kids play really well together and help each other out, and the baby is constantly entertained by them. On the days I didn’t feel great in the first trimester, I was honest with them about why I was lying on the couch so much and gave them activities like play-dough and puzzles.
I know it’s easier said than done, but you don’t need to feel guilty if you’re not doing all the things or taking your kids on Pinterest-perfect outings.
Pregnancy is just a season. Your kids will not be scarred by a few months of simpler days, more quiet time at home, or extra books on the couch. In fact, they might enjoy those days more than you think. When we have access to see what everyone else is doing online, it can make us feel like we’re not doing enough for our kids. But I assure you, the picture-perfect activities and outings don’t matter to them as much as it does to you.
How Does Your Husband Feel About All This?
He’s excited! Even back when I wasn’t sure about having biological kids, he was already dreaming of fatherhood.
He doesn’t stress about the future much, which helps keep me grounded too. He’s present, excited, and he loves our kids deeply. We often look at each other and say, “This really is the best thing we could be doing with our lives!”
Thanks for reading and sharing this moment with me! If you have any more questions or just want to say hi, leave a comment or email me at hello@micaela.ca. I’d love to hear from you.
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