014 | Should I Have Another Baby?
A Christian perspective on growing your family
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I keep coming across videos and discussions about whether or not people should have kids—or if they should have more kids. Even though I’m obviously already a mom and have strong opinions on this, I can’t resist watching those videos. And almost every time, they frustrate me.
Why? Because I was one of those women who spent years wrestling the question “should I have kids?” And I was missing a key factor: my faith.
My Story
I spent a long time contemplating whether or not to have children. I always assumed kids would be part of my life in some way—whether through foster care, youth ministry, or something else. But I kept saying I “didn’t want” biological children.
After a deep season of depression and some desperate prayers, God changed my heart all at once overnight. I began praying for an opportunity to lay my life down and live in service to Him. Once I found the answer, it seemed so obvious: motherhood.
[listen to episode 001 for more of my story]
Am I here to pursue happiness?
When I was debating whether to have children, I was looking at it from a selfish lens. At that point, I would have called myself a Christian, but I wasn’t actively living for Jesus. My decisions were based on maximizing my own happiness and my husband’s happiness—not on seeking God’s will for our lives.
If happiness on this earth is your only goal, then sure—don’t get married, don’t have kids, and don’t put yourself in any close relationships. Because real love requires sacrifice. Marriage taught me that true joy comes not from serving myself but from putting God first and then serving my spouse. And motherhood? That lesson deepened even more.
Since I now have the eternal mindset of a Jesus-follower, the answer is obvious. I’m not here to pursue my own personal happiness. I’m not here to live a comfortable life. I’m here to further God’s kingdom, and what greater blessing than to do that through motherhood?
Am I here to pursue money?
A common concern in these conversations is money. But as Christians, we see money differently. Instead of constantly trying to get more, we trust God with what we have. Every time I pray over our finances, I don’t necessarily get more money—I get lessons on better stewardship. Yes, we have to be responsible, but ultimately, all our money belongs to the Lord.
Am I left to mother on my own strength?
This brings up the question of capacity. Can I handle another child? The simple answer: No, not on my own. And that’s exactly why we need God. Whether it’s one child or seven, motherhood forces us to rely on His strength. My season of three under three has been my most challenging, but it has also been my biggest blessing because it’s drawn me closer to Him.
Am I here to be comfortable?
One of the hardest parts of becoming a mother is the shift in routine and time-freedom. Before I had kids, I had to intentionally lay down my time and my schedule before the Lord. I knew motherhood would change everything—my marriage, my time, my energy—but I had to embrace that rather than fight against it. The worst thing we can do as new moms is cling tightly to our old way of life and resist the change that God is bringing.
What no one tells you about motherhood:
Yes, there is sacrifice in motherhood. You will have less time, less money, less personal freedom. But the blessings far outweigh what you think you're losing. The joy, the purpose, and the fulfillment that come with raising children are indescribable.
When I became a mom, I was so MAD at all the whiny moms (mostly online) who made me think motherhood would be a burden. Women talk so freely about the downsides of motherhood and what they feel they’ve lost, but no one can truly describe the joy.
Yes, there’s a time and place for discussing struggles, but we need to be careful how we speak. The enemy wants us to view motherhood as a burden instead of the blessing that it is. Our words shape our own beliefs and those of the future mothers around us.
Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.” The world tells us children are an inconvenience. But in God’s eyes, they are one of the greatest gifts we can receive.
Should You Have More Kids?
If you’re trying to make this decision from a worldly perspective, it will never make sense. The cost, the time, the exhaustion—it seems like an overwhelming “no." But if you are seeking to follow Christ and build His kingdom, then YES, have children! Keep having children! Step into the blessing God wants to give you.
Like I said, this is in the context of seeking to further God’s Kingdom. So of course, make sure you and your husband are on the same page and that he is also counting the cost, ready to further God’s Kingdom.
Is it wrong to prevent babies?
The more children I have, the more I question the way we, as Christians, approach birth control. I’ve always been against hormonal birth control, but we’ve used natural family planning in the past. Lately, though, I wonder—why do we try to control this? Why are we deciding how many children we should have instead of trusting God?
I know this is a controversial topic, but I can’t help but think: if God wants to bless us with another child, why would I say no out of fear? Why would I turn down another person to love, raise, and bring into His kingdom?
I don’t have a concrete answer to this question yet, but I want to continue to wrestle with it. I want to be open to God’s leading even if His plan goes beyond the number of kids I think I can handle. Remember, we’re not doing this on our own strength.
Final Thoughts
If you’re wrestling with the question of having children—or having more children—I encourage you to think beyond the temporary sacrifices and consider the eternal impact. Children are not a burden; they are a blessing. And if God is calling you to grow your family, trust that He will provide all that you need.
I’d love to hear your thoughts! Did you always plan to have kids or was it a big decision for you? Let me know in the comments or send me an email hello@micaela.ca.
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